The most wonderful time of the year? Let's be real.
Ah, December. The month of twinkling lights, cozy vibes, and festive cheer—or so we’re told. While it can be a magical time for some, let’s be real: for many, December is hard. And it’s okay to admit that. The holiday season often disrupts our routines, brings up complex emotions, and demands a lot from us—mentally, emotionally and physically. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, you’re not alone! Let’s unpack why this month can be challenging and how we can take care of ourselves through it all.
All I want for Christmas is a nap.
We do this each year, why is it so hard? First, there’s the disruption to our routines. Whether it’s holiday parties, travel plans, or squeezing in last-minute shopping, the regular rhythm of our days can feel completely out of whack. If you thrive on structure, this can be disorienting and for some cause irritability and stress alone.
Then, there’s the emotions. December can be a time of reflection, which can bring joy—but also sadness. Memories of loved ones no longer with us, relationships that have changed and for those navigating strained family relationships, the thought of sitting across the dinner table from Uncle Bob’s political hot takes can feel downright daunting and exhausting.
Let’s not forget the darker days—literally. SAD or Seasonal affective disorder is very real! With shorter daylight hours, many of us feel the effects of reduced sunlight, which can effect vitamin D levels, sap our energy and dampen our mood.
And finally, the societal pressure to "make everything perfect" for the holidays can lead to a constant simmer of stress. Gifts, decorations, meals, social obligations—it’s ALOT.
Deck the halls with self love!
The good news? There are ways to navigate this tricky month with a little more ease and a lot more self-compassion. Here are a few strategies to consider:
1. Practice Mindfulness
When the world feels chaotic, mindfulness can help ground you. Take a few minutes each day to breathe deeply, meditate, or simply notice the present moment. Mindfulness isn’t about silencing your thoughts—it’s about acknowledging them without judgment. There are many great grounding techniques, have a look and find one that suits you and keep it in the back pocket for those difficult moments.
2. Move Your Body
Exercise is a powerful mood booster, and it doesn’t have to mean hitting SLAM for an intense workout if that isn’t going to work for you that day. A walk in the crisp winter air, a gentle yoga session, or even a living room dance party can work wonders. Moving your body helps release stress and recharges your energy. Not to mention if you train at SLAM you have some like minded spirits to vent to - trust us, we get it.
3. Seek Out Community
Speaking of, December can feel isolating, especially if you’re going through a tough time. Reach out to a friend for coffee, find some like minded people who can help validate feelings or just offer respite from family. Connection doesn’t have to be grand or formal—it’s about finding small ways to remind yourself you’re not alone!
4. Set Boundaries
It’s okay to say no. Really. If a family gathering feels too overwhelming, it’s fine to decline. We understand that isn’t always possible though but if you can, limit your time there. If you’re dreading certain conversations, plan ahead with ways to steer the topic elsewhere. Pre-prepare an easy out too. My favourite is needing to get back for the dog which lets me slip away when my social battery has reached it’s limit and i’m ready to get home and recharge.
5. Engage in Self-Love
Whether it’s treating yourself to a favourite movie, having your go to comfort meal prepped or carving out quiet time to journal, make space for what brings you joy and peace. Acts of self-love don’t have to be extravagant—they just need to remind you that you’re worthy of care.
6. Be Kind to Yourself
Perhaps the most important tip of all: give yourself grace. You don’t have to feel cheerful all the time, nor do you have to meet any expectations given by society. This month doesn’t have to be perfect. If you’re struggling, remind yourself that it’s okay. You’re human, and that’s enough.
A Final Thought: Kindness Over Perfection
As we move through December, let’s remember that the goal isn’t to have a “perfect” holiday season. It’s to get through it with a little more kindness—for ourselves and for others. Whether that means setting boundaries, seeking support, or simply taking a deep breath amidst the chaos, know that you’re doing the best you can and you aren’t alone.
Here’s to making space for joy when it shows up—and for giving ourselves permission to rest when it doesn’t.